PERSUASION IS GIVING GENTLE DIRECTION
THE GENTLER THE BETTER
PERSUASION IS GIVING GENTLE DIRECTION
THE GENTLER THE BETTER
IT MUST BE THEIR IDEA
Persuasion is not wrong. We persuade daily. Life is about manipulation. Pruning, grafting, pulling weeds, your car is a result of manipulation of environment.
What’s wrong is the “WHY” motive.
Menus at restaurants do exactly this. They are using the power of suggestion. Have you ever gone to one knowing you have a hankering for a burger but the daily special posted on the first page says salmon filet and you change your mind? You didn’t know that option was available until that moment. Likewise, let them know Adult or merciful Parent is available as an option.
Cops have a routine. They pull you over, process your info, write a ticket, etc.
If you can break that routine you don’t have to deal with their predetermined outcome.
Unless you did something that really stirred them up emotionally they are about as passionate about writing you a ticket as the cashier at Walmart is about handing you your receipt.
“There must be a way we can resolve this without me paying a fine and you having to fill out a bunch of paperwork.” Show them that they are hurting themselves as a result of their plan and suggest all they have to do is change their plan… a simple decision on his part can remove complication from his life and lift a load off his shoulders. It works best if he is the only one present. Cops have bad days and easy days.
Quote scripture: “Blessed are the merciful for they shall be shown mercy” by putting them in the de facto role of God or judge you suddenly flatter them and remind them of their Parent-Child role interaction. Who can punish a child cowering in a corner? Only a psycho. If he is a psycho you have trouble -so you will have to read him well.
Possibly, by taking a zombie on a mental roller coaster ride through the Child Adult Parent ego state you can confuse him and make his other ego states more available. That is my theory. It definitely makes them tired. There is some kind of energy used when ego states have to swim up to the surface. The more they swim the more tired they become. It is like jet lag or over-use of a time machine in a sci-fi movie. Maybe a better analogy is that it is like rebooting a computer that has multiple user log-ins. It takes so much time to load the preferences and history for each user that each demon’s ascent eventually drains the battery and the cop just needs a break.
But they always start as children. If you use mental judo to pull them off balance you can make the transaction Adult to Adult or Parent to Parent. You elevate yourself to their level. You engage the adult by making them recall their oath.
A pissed off child escalates into a child-to-child fight.
Only by breaking them out of the child ego state will they accept “no” as an answer.
Once you are both Adult-Adult you can work together towards a solution. Negotiate.
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